After thirteen years of marriage, a woman’s world is turned upside down when her husband abruptly asks to be taken out of her life and plots a dramatic cross-country move—all the while keeping a secret that might completely alter everything. She discovers a covert relationship with an old friend, but what transpires next places her in an unexpected predicament.
On February 3, 2024, a mysterious woman posted a captivating poster detailing how her 13-year marriage took an unexpected turn. Her husband, who had initially seemed pleased with his work, later became irate and declared that he was going to apply for a job across the country.
Not long after this announcement came an unexpectedly direct and frank recommendation. “He went on a tirade about how terrible I am and out of nowhere suggested a separation,” read the Original Poster (OP). Even though they’d experienced ups and downs in the past, she felt that this response was overly dramatic and unfounded.
Over the next few weeks, OP was informed of her husband’s extensive interaction with a former acquaintance who had recently gone through a divorce and who had been instrumental in helping him secure this potential employment. They exchanged more than 500 SMS messages a day, or almost 24,000 texts in a single month, demonstrating how intense their communication was.
The overwhelming majority of the online comments on OP’s post were critical, calling her a “NTA” for the decisions and actions she took in the face of her husband’s betrayal and cunning plans.
The husband’s plan was extremely clear: he was going to relocate the entire family, including the OP, his mother, and their two elementary-aged children. When OP made this decision, she took into account all of the sacrifices she had made in the past, such as moving for his graduate program and current job. She expressed her dismay, saying, “Moving away from the kids’ school and friends, as well as my work and friends, is unconscionable.”
The tension increased when her spouse traveled to the potential workplace for what was supposed to be a one-day interview but ended up taking four days. At this point, OP came across information that seemed to suggest he planned to establish a sexual relationship.
When questioned upon his return, he defended his admission that he had been “unhappy for 15 years.” After learning of this, OP began to wonder whether it was her fault that she had thought about getting a divorce and asking for their children’s physical custody so they could stay in the state.
Her husband emphasized that the children needed their father to be present and that she was important for their welfare, drawing on his own experience of growing up without a father figure.
Many people branded OP as “NTA” for her actions and decisions in the wake of her husband’s betrayal and plots in the overwhelmingly scathing online comments left on her account. Her online community came together to assist her and offer situational analysis.
One commentator stated, “He’s upset because he lost his leverage when you found out and hired a lawyer.” It appears that his plan was to move all of you and then anchor those kids to his new location. You and the kids were left stranded. Wonderful work! Without a doubt, you are NTA!
Meanwhile, someone else spoke the words “Nta. He doesn’t get to ruin everyone’s life because he is having an affair and doesn’t want to cause trouble for anyone.
A third voice answered, “NTA-no way would I move just for him to divorce you when you move.” Definitely get a divorce as soon as possible before he gives up his job.
How do you feel about this narrative? Is it appropriate for OP’s spouse to want a separation from his wife while also pressuring her to relocate across the nation for him? If you were in OP’s shoes, how would you respond to the circumstances? Would you support the husband’s choice or disagree with him?
